i remember when i thought i was straight and this guy i was dating was trying to pressure me into sex while i had cramps by saying “orgasms relieve cramps babe” and without thinking i replied “but you don’t make me cum” and i have never seen anyone go through the seven stages of grief so quickly
I didn’t figure out my passion or what may bring me the most joy until well into age 27. Looking back on the stress of 18-26, it would have made no sense for me to settle into anything else and I wouldn’t have been ready to settle into what I love back then either. Some of us “bloom” later. Have compassion and patience with yourself, but be proactive.
spotlight | roller coaster | black dress | the boots | the chance of love | district 9 | baby | time for the moon night | time of sorrow | bingle bangle | take me higher | dkdk | now or never | i’m so sick | killing me | hi high | baby u | remember me | pirate king | woman | no air | i love you | free fall | love shot
hot take: moms need to learn how to listen to and comfort their daughters without making everything about their own traumas
a classic example
daughter: hey this thing you do bothers me very much and i wish you wouldn’t do it
mom: well my parents abused me and im not even as bad as they were and i had to sit through it so you gotta sit through whatever i do to you too
a common variant
mom: well i’m having a really hard time right now and you know that i’m doing my best and that i didn’t mean to hurt you ergo you are in fact the asshole for asking me to consider your feelings and change my behavior during this hard hard time i’m having
least favorite
mom: fine. you’re right and i’m wrong and i’m a horrible person. there. are you happy now?
see also
mom: you can’t be mad at me. you’re not allowed to be mad at me. i can’t stand it.
Last two are definitely my mom and hence why he don’t talk.
